I recently saw a statistic that was fairly startling to me; that 40% of American women have had an abortion. I did a small amount of web-based research that suggested maybe the number is more like 30%.
This made me recall a conversation I had recently (with another guy) where we were musing about the strong reaction to the War on Women (or caterpillars, if you prefer) that was engendered when access to birth control was implicated. Whereas support for access to birth control is fairly strong, support for access to abortion is often very tepid even among those who support such access as an intellectual exercise. My friend said that abortion was just something that felt so alien.
If that statistic is accurate, maybe it’s something that’s alien to middle aged guys but not so alien to America’s women. I’m one of those people who support access to abortion as an intellectual exercise because I don’t regard a fetus in its early stages to be morally equivalent to a human even though it has the potential to become human. But, I don’t have the emotional response to restrictions on abortions that I do to restrictions on birth control because the former is nothing I’ve had to deal with directly and, so far as I recall, only one person I know has talked to me directly about her own experience.
It’s easy for me to say because I don’t have to deal with the backlash, but I think we could have a more honest discussion about abortion if the people having them were more open about the experience. The unknown horrors conjured up by your brain in ignorance are usually more terrifying than reality. I’ve told the story before about how I was something of a homophobe before getting to know some honest to god gay people. (Or, rather, people I knew were gay — I had known them, I just didn’t know that I knew them.) In much the same way, I expect that real atheists are less foreign to believers than whatever notions they have in their heads in the absence of real-world examples. And, I expect the people who actually have abortions present more sympathetic cases than the baby-murdering monsters currently occupying the void and informing public discourse.
You can still condemn abortion if you’d like, but such condemnation should be informed by the reality that 30-40% of the women you know may have participated in the exercise.